Thinking About Yourself
Being assertive makes you think about yourself more, but not in a selfish way. As you behave assertively you are likely to become a more confident, independent and interesting person. You will begin to:
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- Feel good about yourself
- Acknowledge the things you’re good at doing
- Rate yourself
- Accept praise and handle criticism
- Believe in yourself
- Take responsibility for yourself
- Ask for what you want
- Allow yourself to make mistakes, and change your mind
- Recognise your responsibility towards others.
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Feeling Good
Perhaps it’s a long time since anyone paid you a compliment. But perhaps it’s even longer since you paid yourself one. Compliments acknowledge your good points. Everyone is a mix of good and not so good; assertiveness helps you to accept yourself as a whole person.
Exercise - Paying yourself a compliment
Take about 5 minutes to think about yourself. Write down a list of your good points. It can be as simple as, ‘being bald is quite sexy’ or, ‘I’m a good neighbour’. Think of something that makes you feel good about yourself, no matter how small.
1. Read back what you have written about yourself.
2. Go to the mirror, look at yourself and say them out loud.
3. Over the next few weeks try to find out more things you like about yourself. Add them to the list, and say them out loud
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